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Parents’ Survival Guide

How to Survive the Application Process

Helping your daughter go through the college application can be stressful and anxiety-provoking, but it also comes with great opportunities to communicate and learn. It helps to acknowledge the anxiety, understand that it comes from the right place, and then work to move past it.

Remember that while college is a big decision, it is not the most important decision that your daughter will make in her life. You and your daughter may have different expectations about college. Ask your daughter why she wants to go to college and really listen to the answer. When it comes to finding the right college, it’s not about the name, it’s about the match. There’s not one perfect college, and a more selective college doesn't necessarily mean it's a better college for your daughter.

Be open to looking at lots of different colleges. Communication is critical. Be supportive and listen. Assist with organizing paperwork and college visits.

The best way to help your daughter handle the stress is by handling it yourself. How you deal with this process will be an important model for her.


Reading Recommendations

  • Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College, Patricia Pasick
  • I’m Going to College—Not You! Surviving the College Search with Your Child, Jennifer Delahunty
  • Less Stress, More Success: A New Approach to Guiding Your Teen Through College Admissions and Beyond, Marilee Jones and Kenneth R. Ginsburg
  • Letting Go: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding the College Years, Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger
  • Parents’ Guide to College Life, Robin Raskin
  • The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior Year to College Life, Laura Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt
  • The Pressured Child, Michael Thompson
  • How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims

Forms & Deadlines

Deferred applicants are reconsidered with regular decision applications in the spring. Decision mailings are sent mid-December.

Early Decision Agreement   November 15
Common Application or 
Coalition Application
  November 15
Smith Writing Supplement   November 15
Secondary School Report   November 15
Counselor Recommendation   November 15
Two Teacher Evaluations   November 15
Standardized Test Scores (optional)   November 15
Interview (recommended)   November 15
Financial Aid Materials   See Tuition & Financial Aid for deadlines
Enrollment Decision   January 15

 

Where to Send Forms

You can send your documents to us through the mail or via fax. Please make copies of all documents submitted.

Office of Admission
Smith College
7 College Lane
Northampton, MA 01063

Fax: 413-585-2527

Deferred applicants are reconsidered with regular decision applications in the spring. Decision mailings are sent in late January.

Early Decision Agreement   January 1
Common Application or 
Coalition Application
  January 1
Smith Writing Supplement   January 1
Secondary School Report   January 1
Counselor Recommendation   January 1
Two Teacher Evaluations   January 1
Midyear School Report (if available)   January 1
Two Teacher Evaluations   January 1
Standardized Test Scores (optional)   January 1
Interview (recommended)   January 1
Financial Aid Materials   See Tuition & Financial Aid for deadlines
Enrollment Decision   February 15

 

Where to Send Forms

You can send your documents to us through the mail or via fax. Please make copies of all documents submitted.

Office of Admission
Smith College
7 College Lane
Northampton, MA 01063

Fax: 413-585-2527

Decision mailings are sent in late March.

Common Application or 
Coalition Application
  January 15
Smith Writing Supplement   January 15
Secondary School Report   January 15
Counselor Recommendation   January 15
Two Teacher Evaluations   January 15
Midyear School Report   February 2
Standardized Test Scores (optional)   January 15
Interview (recommended)   January 15
Financial Aid Materials   See Tuition & Financial Aid for deadlines
Enrollment Decision   May 1

 

Where to Send Forms

You can send your documents to us through the mail or via fax. Please make copies of all documents submitted.

Office of Admission
Smith College
7 College Lane
Northampton, MA 01063

Fax: 413-585-2527